Dear Young Women of 2025,
I hope these words reach you not just as encouragement, but as a reminder of your power—and a call to protect it.
Lately, I’ve noticed a growing drumbeat in the news: the federal government is “concerned” about declining birth rates. Frankly, I’m not sure why they’re surprised. We live in a time when reproductive health care options for women have been rolled back and when the developing cultural and social structures around us often do more to limit women than to support them.
But here’s what you need to know: despite all this, you are thriving. You are outpacing men in higher education—women’s graduation rates now stand at 67.9%, compared to 61.3% for men. You are building financial independence—single women own about 58% of homes owned by unmarried Americans, more than single men. And study after study shows that unmarried, childless women are among the happiest and healthiest groups in society. You are not just surviving—you are building rich, fulfilling lives.
Meanwhile, men are facing rising loneliness and shrinking social networks. Some will try to make this your problem. It is not. Their struggles do not erase your right to pursue your own path.
Yes, fertility rates are dropping. But this is not a “women’s problem.” It is the result of complex forces—economic realities, educational opportunities, political climate and lack of structural support.
Instead of addressing these systemic issues, too many policies aim to pressure women back into motherhood, often through restrictions that put women’s health and safety at risk. Our government is much more interested in being pro-birth than pro-child or pro-family.
The overturning of Roe v. Wade was not empowerment—it was a setback. And until reproductive health care options are secure in all states, many women will rightfully choose to delay or forgo motherhood for their own well-being.
So, my message to you is simple, but firm:
- Your life is yours to shape. College, career, marriage, children—or none of the above—every path is valid if it is your choice.
- Guard your health, safety and autonomy fiercely. Know the laws. Speak up. Vote. Demand care that protects you.
- Do not accept misplaced blame. You are not responsible for fixing male loneliness, propping up flawed policies or compensating for a government’s lack of support.
- Celebrate your wins. Every degree, every paycheck, every home, every step toward independence is a victory.
The road ahead won’t always be smooth, but it is yours. It’s not fair that right now you are walking a precarious path – but, walk it with confidence.
You are now part of a generation rewriting the rules—not just for women, but for everyone.
Cindy Allen 